I'm gonna give you an honest insight and an important tidbit related to thoughts and body image, shortly. But first.
Let me set the story up for you. My son told me about his Dad's girlfriend.
To calm you down, I've been divorced and ecstatically remarried for almost 3 years.
When your 7-year-old starts talking about his Dad's girlfriend, one's ears do tend to perk up.
So, I asked the usual questions as any responsible ex might do:
What does she do?
Is she nice?
Do you like her?
How old do you think she is?
I'm only human!
And out of nowhere he said, "She has white hair and is small like you."
*PAUSE* for the important part of the story (it's not the white hair).
My son called ME small.
I consider myself recovered from my torturous, obsessive relationship with food, weight and body.
I've been my current weight for several years.
Yet, still I feel shocked that my son associates me as a "small" person.
Here's the real answer that I'm none too happy to admit.
I am still coming to terms with the fact that I'm an M.
M for Medium.
I'm an M height, shoe size, bone structure and weight.
So, M makes perfect sense for me.
I hoped my natural size would be an XS.
Here's the real question.
Why do women feel like they have to be so small to truly, authentically, feel good?
Can you relate, Sister?
To be clear, I'm happy, confident and I feel great in my own skin.
But there's this lurking, faint wish in the back of my mind to be an XS.
All I have to wrap this up for you today is the nuggets:
-Natural weight comes in all shapes and sizes.
-Just because you overcome your issues doesn't mean the Mean Girl thoughts will never visit again.
-Weight journeys are about your thoughts and managing realistic expectations when it comes to weight journeys.
Do you have some thoughts for me? Shoot me an email here. I'd love to hear them.
With So Much Love,
Your M-sized Weight Journey Coach-